Divorce can be a lengthy process, especially when your spouse refuses to complete the divorce. You may be done with the marriage but your ex obviously has some problems letting go. After all, finalizing the divorce is a strong signal that there is no going back. As frustrating as it may be for you, keep the following in mind. Your Ex is Still Hurt If you initiated the divorce, your ex may still be hurt that you left. They may be trying to hold on to whatever connection there

After divorce, you may come to the realization that you have too much stuff. It's time to downsize! Simplify your life and downsize in these five ways: ONE: Go through your closet Take a look at your closet! There are a lot of ways to downsize there. You have a ton of items that you don't wear anymore. Get rid of them. Throw out clothing that you haven't worn in over a year. While your at it, take a complete inventory of your closet and find out what works and what doesn't. T

The other night I made a bold move. I went to a dance class all by myself. Yup. Little Miss Independent here. I was inspired by a dear friend of mine who took me to a swing class group the other weekend. There, I muddled around a bit on the dance floor. The leads I danced with were very kind. When I explained to one that it was my first time, he said, "Well, at least you know how to follow really well". I explained that I had a very good teacher. I saw how my friend danced wi

A friend of mine recently asked if Charmed Divorce makes any recommendations about what to do with the wedding ring once the marriage is over. Looks like we missed that one! So here it is: Even though I've been divorced for many years, I still feel the weight of the ring on my left hand. Kind of like Frodo. I still have my wedding ring, too, and it's tucked away to give to one of my children. Maybe they will appreciate it, have fond memories of their childhood, and decide to

When a relationship is over, when do people start dating again? Do we even know what that means anymore? When are we ready? After a long relationship and before dating, there needs to be a period of recovery. Who knows how long this is - weeks? months? years? I've scoured the internet to find the answer and the answer is different every time. Typically, people say "half the life of the relationship". For someone coming out of a 20 year marriage, that could most certainly suck